You can't tell me that I'm wrong!

*Bismillah*

I am very, very, very upset to say that I have found this the case with a few blogs by young Muslim women out in blogosphere. They blog that they are going to do something haraam (proven by authentic hadith...etc), and then they tell their readers to not refute them! They say not to shoot hadiths or anything of the like at them. I'm sorry sisters, but if I see you doing something wrong; like it or not I'm going to tell you about it! If a Muslim sees another Muslim doing something wrong, and we don't say anything about it; we are also in the wrong. Why? Because we stood there watching you give into Shaitans whisperings. It's like standing by watching a Muslim steal a piece of candy (small as it is) from a store, and not say anything about it. The thing is that, it's not like you don't know what you are doing is wrong. You just don't like to be told that you are wrong, and that is a bad trait to have. To me it is just another form of arrogance; not liking to be told that you are wrong.

"When you see an evil act you have to stop it with your hand. If you can't, then at least speak out against it with your tongue. If you can't, then at least you have to hate it with all your heart. And this is the weakest of faith." - Prophet Muhammad (Sahih Muslim, Book 1, Number 79:)

If you don't like to be told that what you are doing is wrong, don't post it at all. No one wants to hear of your sinning if you KNOW that what you are doing is wrong. Because when you say; "Yeah, I'm going to slap on this load of bright makeup, and skinny jeans...DUN TELL ME THAT THIS IS HARAM CUS I DUN CARE!" really makes me want to throw the Qu'ran and Hadith in your face. However, I can't do that. I have to have adaab too. I have to correct you in a kind, understanding manner. I have to have hadith, and Qu'ran to back up my refutes. No, we shouldn't go around become the haraam police and saying "this is haraam, HARAAAM!!!". That's not the way to correct someone. We shouldn't be nit-picks and pick at everything someone is doing. Sometimes they don't know that what they are doing is wrong. We shouldn't correct people in a nasty way. Subhanallah! Subhanallah! I have seen so many Muslim's correct each other in such rude ways!! That is not the way to do things!

Narrated Anas bin Malik:

A bedouin urinated in the mosque and the people ran to (beat) him. Allah's Apostle said, "Do not interrupt his urination (i.e. let him finish)." Then the Prophet asked for a tumbler of water and poured the water over the place of urine. [Bukhari]

and another version from Sahih Muslim:

Anas ibn Maalik, who said:

“Whilst we were in the mosque with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), a Bedouin came and stood urinating in the mosque. The Companions of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘Stop it! Stop it!’ But the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘Do not interrupt him; leave him alone.’ So they left him until he had finished urinating, then the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) called him and said to him, ‘In these mosques it is not right to do anything like urinating or defecating; they are only for remembering Allaah, praying and reading Qur`aan,’ or words to that effect. Then he commanded a man who was there to bring a bucket of water and throw it over the (urine), and he did so.” (Saheeh Muslim, no. 285).

Do you see how in that hadith something that the people wanted to attack the man for his doing something (wrong), and the prophet was kind about it? He solved the problem quickly, and maturely. He didn't get all in his face saying; HARAAM! So yeah brothers and sisters, correct your Muslim sisters and brothers correctly. For those that do know they are doing something wrong and don't like it pointed out...then please for the sake of Allah; stop what you are doing! Stop telling your fellow Muslims to not correct you! Stop it! Don't BLOG about something that you KNOW you are doing is haraam. We may not be Allah, but we are here to help guide you towards what is RIGHT.

In conclusion, sometimes taking the advice that you are given is better for you. I am not directing this towards anyone, I am simply making a statement. I am speaking out. Yes, I know how hard it is (especially as a young woman) to avoid doing some things. However, when you tell someone not to refute you; you are only making yourself seem arrogant, and wrong in two ways. One way because you sinned (or you are going to), and two because you know you sinned. You may tell us to let Allah deal with you, but Allah put us Muslims, parents, teachers, imam's, sheiks, and elders to help guide you. Do you really, truly want to answer to Allah for something that could have been easily avoided, and that a Muslim gave you advice on? Seriously? I'm sorry if I offended anyone with this post, but I have to state the truth. Usually I am the one who tells people things that no one else will say...and most of the time its the truth. May Allah bless and guide us all. - Nisa